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Hey squad welcome to another week of the Virtus performance podcast. Before we get stuck into today's episode I'd like to cheers you all for sticking with us for the last 60 something weeks. It's pretty cool to keep seeing the downloads going up, keep hearing feedback, getting messages of support is awesome. Getting suggestions for guests and topic ideas is equally awesome so if you guys have something you want us to talk about, if you have a suggestion of a guest of someone who would be rad to listen to and learn off, if you yourself want to give yourself some self praise and throw your hat in the ring then that would be spectacular.
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to get the most out of this life and experience as many things as she can so I'm not going to give too much away in this intro because you've got a whole hour listening to her coming up and because we've got a fair bit still to talk about we're going to do a part two in a couple of weeks to kind of fill in some of the gaps that we didn't get to cover today so without further ado here's Bianca. My personal and business goal is to be just a little bit better every day. I believe everyone especially normal people have a story to tell.
The Virtus podcast exists to help us all find small ways of consistent improvement by discussing the journey and experiences of each of our guests. Bianca, welcome to the podcast. Thank you very much Lukey. How's your last couple of weeks been? Incredible. Fill me in, fill us in. Alright, my partner and I went on an adventure to Lord Howe Island deliberately going when it was low season knowing that half the island would be away on holidays so you're limited with your resources and your choices and just wanted to actually explore the island itself for its authentic
beauty and to be able to free dive and find as much life under the water as we could so it was remarkable for the astounding creatures we discovered under the water. What was it like I guess being there in the off season while it was a bit more quiet? It shows you that technology can support you and also hold you back with your own self development because there's no reception and the people who live there have reception but you can't access it at all so you're just left to your own mind. How about that? It's fantastic, I loved it, my partner loved it.
You wake every morning to all of these incredible birds and instantly you just have this sense of deep happiness and serenity within and then you go outside and you're surrounded by ocean but you also have mountains and it's gorgeous so that tranquility I think in modern life with technology constantly distracting you was something really beautiful to get back to. Did you find it hard to switch off when you got there or was it just like obviously you went with the intention of connecting and experiencing? Did you have a good day or two where you were checking your phone or looking for your phone?
No we decided to turn it off as soon as we left Melbourne. Awesome. Then what we did find was as soon as we got to the island we found all of these like beautiful tiny little fluorescent green birds and I went to my phone to look up what they were and instead I had to go to the library in where we were like the accommodation where we were staying and had to open a book and touch pages which were old. Did you find it? Yeah I found it. They were probably like 20 minutes. 20 minutes? Cool.
How do you find something when you don't know what the index search for is? Green bird? You can't just google a little green fluorescent bird on a one hour island. No. That's super cool. Then we came across because we hired some bikes and there was this beautiful bird with this golden chest and it's called the golden whistler and that's the song that you wake up to in the morning. Awesome. And to find that bird took us about 15 minutes and we both looked at each other saying like look at it surrounded by all these like bird books and yeah it was a different experience because you don't get it instantly.
Yeah so it was something that you had to kind of ease into. Yeah we had to search for the information and it was actually quite nice. Yeah. To have something that's not instantly available to you. But outside of that we didn't think about it at all. Cool. And you actually have to connect with people through conversation and communal experiences. Yeah. And that was really nice as well. So the majority of the people that were there, are they residents? Yes. Because they were a little surprised that we were there off-season because they were like why? Why have you come when there's nothing to do?
Yeah. So what things, it doesn't need to be a thing, or what activities or what experiences did you fill your time with? We set ourselves to task to wake up with the dawn and to go to sleep with the stars. Awesome. So every day we had a little plan and allowed it to be flexible. So we hiked Mount Gower which is one of the largest mountains there and I hiked it, well my partner and I stayed back with this 87 year old man. And he had hiked that mountain when you weren't really allowed to and when you could only access the island via seaplane.
Oh yeah. And he did that on his honeymoon. His wife suffers extreme Parkinson's disease. So he went back to the island to take photos of the trek to take back to her to show her what the island's like now. So that really reminded me that I don't know, you seize life and it is what you make it. So that was one of the, I guess the founding moments at the beginning of our trip, like how deeply are we going to have our days here? Like are we really going to commit to this island or are we just going to like, if we feel a bit tired we won't be bothered.
No, that made us really want to explore everything. And so we did and we just snorkeled nearly every single day even with waves crashing above our heads. We just went deep and it was incredible. Like the turtles, absolutely. We made friends with the local people as well so they showed us. I was hoping you'd say you made friends with the turtles. I did make friends with the turtles. Yeah, I swam around with probably the biggest greenback turtle I've ever seen and he was just so happy to have us there. That's cool. So to be invited into their quiet world is something I treasure.
But the local people showed us places or told us about places that other tourists don't go to because you have to actually earn your right to be there. You have to bush bash and that's what we did. They're the best kind of trips. They're the best. Yes, oh my goodness. I don't know the beauty of that place and to know that you're slightly in danger the whole time as well because there's no emergency services, there's no quick rescue, there's no like call someone on your phone. You're just all by yourself so how efficient is your common sense and how well can you look after yourself?
It's something we don't have to do all that often apart from walking out in front of a car and things like that. We're very sheltered. Yes. We were really aware of okay we're in the middle of nowhere, no one knows us here, no one knows where we are, we haven't told anyone our plans and you can just disappear. That could be the start of like a serial killer documentary. You can just disappear. You can. So how did you get off the island because it took you a little longer than you expected? Yes because the runway is so small there and the planes are controlled by the wind.
The two days before our departure date all the planes were delayed and cancelled and then our plane was delayed and cancelled and then we got to leave a couple of days later and they were only taking certain people so they rationed everyone out and then we got our baggage on Friday because they sent that later and we weren't fussed at all but there were some people who were really stressed and annoyed by it. It depends which way you look at it right? For us we were like well it's a gift and it's sort of part of what this place is about.
It's not that easy and it's not available to what your plans are. No it can be very inconvenient. Which is important to be able to deal with that. We saw someone, we had met them on the island and they were lovely but they then had to go to work. They were delayed the two days and their stress just went through the roof and it wasn't I suppose their stress it was the pressure of work saying we should be back and their obligation to their work and even though they knew it was out of their control
even though the work knew it was out of their control they were still stressing and for me personally I just want to be able to hold myself in check with that. So when something is out of your control you have to just hand yourself over to it. It's an important personality trait to be able to and it's hard right? Especially in this overstimulated world where it's super hard to be able to go I'm just going to take a breath, let myself be okay and then deal with it the best I can. Yep that's exactly right.
So when you're not waiting to get off Lord Howe Island when you're not adventuring and exploring and connecting what gets you out of bed in the morning? I'd say my thirst for existence. Ooh that's a good one. Yeah I like existing. Elaborate. I feel quite honoured to have the option and flexibility to have an open heart and a strong and efficient body and to be able to see and embrace the elements of what nature is made up of and that's what gets me up. Awesome. And then how man has made our modern day life that's
just something you have to adapt to but I would never want to miss a sunrise or miss the magpies you know bringing the sun up because then the kookaburras come and sometimes it's the other way around and I'm always surprised they never interfere with each other's song and that to me just brings me joy and grace like I'm quite happy and thankful to be alive so I try to then put myself to task not wasting my day. Awesome. How do you best make the most of your day? By keeping my promises to myself because I
think the worst promise to break is the one that you've given yourself so to me mine is to look after myself so if it's saying no to someone if someone's running late that's not on me and no I'm not going to extend my time with you because that's not good for me. It's about holding myself accountable and self-preservation and you in a way have to train people how to treat you. Yeah what I'm saying. You need to kind of have your bandwidth of what's acceptable. Yeah and just respect for what I need to be a
balanced person because I want consistency I don't want up and down I don't want to wake up one day so tired that I need a weekend to get over because what is a weekend I think every day in a way should feel the same internally. Definitely. Because we made Monday to Sunday. I agree with that like one of the things that frustrates me most about society is the fact that people live for Friday. Yeah. It doesn't make any sense. No. It's mind-blowing. For me that is as well because I don't live my life that way I'm grateful and I hold myself to a high standard to make sure I'm living it.
Definitely. Is it something that you've always been good at holding yourself to those high standards or is it something that you've worked on and grown and adapted to? I would say I've always had a thirst for life and adventure and I notice the beauty in the quiet moments which other people may not notice so I always had that but to go really deep I would say it's after I saw my mum die in eleven days and I saw that life and living is really easy but to pass and to give up seeing the things that
you love the most that you have an emotional attachment to that's been your passion of why you exist to say goodbye to that and it's something that's out of your control that takes courage. So after her passing it made me have this internal I suppose passion to make sure that every moment that I'm existing that I use it to you know the greatest capacity that I can and if I love and care for someone I really let them know and go above and beyond for them because you just don't know and I think I learnt what unconditional love is and unconditional love is how you treat yourself.
It's obviously difficult having to go through that but it's wonderful that you're able to take a massive learning curve from it and a big life experience. Yeah I felt so honoured because yes you're losing your mum and it happened so quickly and out of the blue but at the same time you realise like have you absorbed everything they've said? Have you really been present? Really been listening? Have you really loved them? Do you have anything that you need to say and it's too late? I'm lucky to say that I didn't because I had a very
open and flexible relationship and I use the word flexible because there's ups there's downs but there was never negativity within that growth and I know I'm lucky for that but still yeah you really want to make sure that you're doing the very best you can to live a life that you have no regrets with. That's beautiful I like that I like that a lot. So how do you take those lessons and I guess share them or teach them to other people? I guess it changed the way I cared for my clients and how I coached them.
Before I was very much the EP or the trainer you could rely on to have your back to believe in you and no one else would that if you feel vulnerable you still have me to lean on. I realised I was robbing someone of having their own back a growing a sense of stability within themselves that if anything if everything feels like it's going downward they can actually just rely on that other voice and you always have a voice that believes in you that you are your own architect and how solid your foundations are is how much work you put into those foundations.
So in a way I felt that I had robbed people of that but at the same time it's a nice learning for me and to have an interdependent relationship. 100% yeah can't be all on you but at the same time you need to be or you can be there to guide and to assist and help. Absolutely and to know like I always had a mindset that I was their safety net yeah like if you fall you won't fall far because I'm here anyway and instead now I'm like build your safety net. What is your safety net?
If your safety net is going outside and going for a walk along the beach before dinner because that makes you feel better then that's what you do when you're down and everyone goes down bunny holes you know hire someone inside yourself and build a trampoline in those bunny holes and bounce back up. Like work your way out of it because that's how you evolve and you stop repeating the same pattern. That's a cool analogy so would you say your I guess coaching philosophy is all around individual empowerment and growth rather than you kind of leading the way.
Absolutely yeah definitely and it's a process then of true transcendence don't you think? Yeah it's like my favourite word at the moment. Transcendence? Yeah like to be able to know what you need in the moment and then be able to be your own resource for that and to build a library of tools you can implement to care for yourself. I think that's the greatest gift you can give yourself and as a coach or trainer to see someone empower themselves that way you know that that person will never end up in the situation they found themselves in because yeah they're building a new highway and resources within themselves that offer flexibility because they have choice because they never feel shut down.
Definitely how do people build that you know toolbox of resources to go back to? I think forgiveness is probably the first tool that you have to give yourself. To actually forgive yourself for not knowing that you were in the predicament you were in before it got to some kind of urgency or you got a medical scare or you got a life scare or you got an injury because in the moments that led up to that you thought you were doing the best you could or you were doing the best you could. Yeah I think everyone's for the most part doing the best they can.
Yeah and then I think knowledge and not having a fixed opinion and being able to break knowledge apart and attach what works for you into your life and keep moving forward and I feel that knowledge allows you to have a flexible mind and that leads to questions and then you might investigate things and then decide you don't like that anymore and then from there you have more questions then you discover more people you discover more literature you're forever expanding and you realise that you might have been holding yourself to these set of standards or these rules but they go against your own moral integrity and that's why you weren't serving yourself.
Yeah that's really important. I think those standards that you hold yourself to are always going to be fluid as well like if we get stuck in those well this is where I need to be then then you're kind of you know banging head head against the wall. Yes do you think as well that a lot of myself included sometimes we forget we're allowed to change our mind? Oh 100% yeah and I think that's something that like I'm proud I think is a word that I've surrounded myself with people that stop me from thinking that way
yeah it's human nature to know like we don't know what we don't know right so it's human nature to think that yeah what I know now will be what I'm always going to know or the beliefs I have about this thing okay yeah that was sorted out and I think if we understand that we never really know or and we never really figure it out then it allows us to remove that ego and just just be however we need to be. Yeah because what is authentic? Authentic is made up of what exactly? Yeah I think
for me authentic is just doing what you think is the correct thing in that situation at that time because we can look back at times where maybe we weren't authentic or maybe we didn't do the right thing and it wasn't because we were intentionally trying to do the right thing to do the wrong thing it was because we didn't know any better. Exactly right. And when we know better we do better. Yes I think so and I should yeah well also I have um I want to use the word discovered but I don't think that's
the appropriate word I've been exposed to how stress shuts down your inner options towards yourself and puts on this tiny little record and puts it on repeat so you can only think to a certain level and your options are only maybe you've got four percent of a flexible mindset when you're stressed and it's always on repeat it never offers you something new and then you look outside yourself and then the person will hear you and then offer you understanding but you don't go anywhere outside of that and looking outside of yourself for any sort of
answer to your stress sometimes isn't the best way so being on the island it showed us how you move out of survival mode when you're not stressed yeah yeah you move out of flight fight or freeze response when you're not stressed and the creativity that flows through you is immense yeah and it causes us just to want to you know eat sleep and explore I know yes yeah yet an experience and that connection as well to not push ourselves when we're tired like we stopped when we were tired yeah and we like went to bed
early but we still saw the stars but we didn't miss a moment of the day and it wasn't distracted by an email or text messages or obligations that we don't really want to be doing yeah or any form of not saying social media is bad in any way but it's definitely bad in some ways I could take every picture in my mind and hold on to it yeah and it's connected to a memory I emoted to it and so it's deep within me and it wasn't a passing moment and I didn't share it with anyone
only the person I was standing next to I love those moments yeah they're the best yeah is there one moment from that trip that sticks out yes and it sounds crazy maybe to someone who hasn't seen it but we were in the ocean and it was so calm there was no wind and then all of a sudden the wind had picked up but we were under so we didn't notice and we were near the surface and we saw all these waves crashing above us and all these tiny little bubbles going up to the surface and
I just started to cry because it was beautiful yeah as the sun rays were coming through and separating all the bubbles and yeah you can't craft that you can't make that happen if we both hadn't have looked up we wouldn't have seen it there's something scary and exciting about being on the bottom of the ocean kind of looking up and just embracing where you are and how small like you feel at that time and insignificant yeah I love that feeling of insignificance and scared too because there's lots of critters out there it's a good scare
right it's like that scare it's a great scare and it's scary and it's exciting I think absolutely and it's respect yeah respect it you know I'm not in charge down here please don't eat me I'm not a seal exactly what so what what got you into the free diving going to Tonga and swimming with the humpback whales but also coming from a long distance running um athletic mindset and then getting injured and realizing I can never put my body under that kind of strain again um where do I put all of where do I put
all that work yeah where do I find that sense of quiet it's gotta go somewhere and I'm a nomad I like to put myself to task and hold myself responsible of how efficient I keep my body you know it's the one of the the most proudest jobs I'll ever have is looking after myself and how do I put myself into some kind of training element that still has stress that I have to evolve that I have to stay connected I have to trust myself to perform when the time's needed and yeah that's that's how talk
me through I guess your experiences in that chapter as a runner and then the injuries so I was competitive but never to the point where I wanted to see someone fail beside me it was more we've all done exactly the same level of training to arrive at this moment yeah now how badly do you want it and I I suppose I used to see every race as an opportunity to test myself of like do you really want this because you know all these people here and someone has to win yeah and you won't be liked
or you will be liked or you know you have all those emotions go through but for me it was me with myself like can I give myself the goal that I set which was to win and the training I was so strict and so harsh towards myself I never knew that I put so much pressure on my body through my mind yeah so having Steve Monagetti as my mentor and connecting with him shout out this is the shout out bell shout out to Steve Monagetti yeah he would say as long as you're enjoying training that's
all that really matters don't worry about your times so I understood that that sounded really nice those sentences as I read them but then when I was out training that's not what I told myself yeah so getting up to 180 kilometers a week and making sure that I was hitting all the distances and then feeling fatigue feeling heat feeling pain feeling fever I just thought I was psyching myself out of something that I wanted so badly yeah and I never ever questioned that I was injured even though I woke up one morning and couldn't swing
my right leg out of my bed really even though one day after a run I knew that I had to stop because my leg stopped moving I didn't want to stop like and I pushed myself as hard as I could until I actually couldn't walk anymore took me about two hours to like push the accelerator pedal in my car to drive home because I just couldn't get my leg to work then when I went to the doctor and got put in traction I was in disbelief and they couldn't believe that I had such a severe
injury and was still running so after you go through all of the surgeries and the rehab and they let you know that your mind is the one thing that actually got you so injured yeah it's an interesting lesson for one as to how powerful the mind is but also how that power can not service and we can use that power absolutely and also I was caring for people and I've never had anyone become injured with any of the training I've done I have shared with all my clients that magic is in recovery I did not
apply that to myself instead I had the mindset like I have the willpower to go above and beyond and do more than someone else will because this is what I want and to then like be two years on crutches to learn how to walk again wow that's huge I was so grateful that I had the use of my leg and it gave me full respect for what rehab actually is because outside of rehabbing my body I had to rehab my emotional connection to my physical ability yeah it's a whole massive shift in mindset absolutely and
I lost my identity because everyone knew me as the runner the runner yeah yeah that's like how running Barbie started and it was really difficult because I'm like if I don't run then I don't know what I am like what am I I've been a runner since I was four yeah I don't know what to do with myself how how did you I guess work through that shift in identity I realize that if I can't run my coach Tom Kelly shout out he's passed away now but if any other runner is out there they'll know
he's the most he was the most incredible humans to brace this earth and he used to say to me if you can't walk it you can't run it so he also set my cadence to Mozart's funeral march so I decided that I'd listen to that and that I would just start preparing myself for every run of my life which is to walk it and that was one of the reasons I walked all over the world that's pretty cool so I'm still in movement and I'm still a nomad but I'm just walking it rather than running
it yeah but it was a death it was really difficult yeah I guess it's it's hard when one season one chapter or one season kind of comes to an end absolutely and it took me quite a while to find allied health professionals who would not be lazy in my recovery yeah because I was fortunate enough to have every single complication you could have lucky me yeah and I was fortunate enough to learn that I had to trust other people to rehab me where I was usually rehabbing someone else it's hard to take your own advice
sometimes isn't it really humbling yes best best experience ever I wouldn't go back in time and change it and it's also always really cool when we can look back at those really hard times and have that point of view I wouldn't change it because it was a learning and growth experience absolutely and I for me I think that the the gift was not to place my identity on anything yeah it doesn't matter what you do or what you're currently focused on that's not who you are no and that was really freeing yeah I think it'd
be if everyone could do that because that is basically just putting your ego aside right it's putting your ego on the hook and removing that from what you're doing to allow you to actually enjoy enjoy and do it and then when that's done it's okay you move on yeah you're okay with that yes and I realized what it was that I loved about running what was it being in nature freedom yeah feeling the seasons like feeling them like having rain pelt on you having muddy runners running alongside the ocean running alongside rivers being faster than
ducks like crunching leaves in autumn I hope that's that's the tag in your instagram faster than a duck no but it should be that's fantastic but I used to love that it was hypnotic to be you know when I'd run in the city and run along the arrow and the ducks are going and you know that you're faster I'm like yeah pick up your cadence guys yeah that's that's really cool how did so it's kind of a two two-part question mm-hmm first part and like this is kind of big question so you can go as
far back as you want how did you get into coaching whoa I was extremely competitive haven't picked up on it and extremely enthusiastic and I didn't understand why people with talent weren't seizing opportunity that would be easy for them yeah so I got into little athletics when I was still competing yeah so there I got the taste of what it's like to see someone achieve something that means so much and I just love that feeling I was in the Navy cadets and I always got put in a role of managing or helping everyone get their
get themselves organized or practice things that they weren't that efficient or quick at yeah and I wouldn't say that I liked it because I felt it was holding me back but then I realized that I never wanted to have a weak link and if you can be patient and understand that everyone hears and experiences things differently and if I can be adaptable to help someone understand how they can bring the best out of themselves my team will win yeah and so that goes back to my competitiveness and it wasn't about winning it's just being the
most efficient team do it once do it properly and don't waste your time yeah and have it that you can repeat it yeah like you're that well organized that well machine well machine you get the same result yes and why wouldn't you want that when it's a positive one yeah and then when I was 17 my mum had three strokes all right and her health professional when she was learning how to walk and talk asked me to help because I was able to see my mother as a human being and not my mother hmm so
I was able to disassociate and empathize with her but still make her do all of the hard work and to me it was just training yeah but why won't you do it because the end result is you get speech back yep you can reverse your car you can go down an escalator like do what needs to be done to get the task done and move forward yep and you have to endure yes so that's how I saw it and I only saw it that way then I was mentored at school mentored through uni and I
worked in a high-end medical day spa which was helping people through convalescence stroke heart dysfunction and there I decided that I wanted to just be with everyone not those who could afford care like that yeah and if someone is shown the encyclopedia of opportunity and it just requires you to do the 1% often and you equal freedom from that freedom from your situation be it pain be it discomfort be it lack of movement and you have the willpower to set yourself you know into motion for that I'm gonna be right behind you so that's why
I moved into more general space within gyms rather than going sports teams and things like that that's pretty cool did you I guess with your coaching and moving into that space did you have a plan or did you just kind of let it happen as it happened I did have a plan at the start and then I realized that that's really limiting yeah and I felt so honored to be exposed to so many people who were willing to do what was required to be done so in a way I felt that I found my unit
found my tribe because I'm a seeker you know I'll go over that mountain and find the water and come back and you still talking well I already know where the water and food is so come with me or stay where you are and I like pushing the limits I'm not interested in staying average or living the same moment it's not interesting to me at all what's your biggest fear my biggest fear would be to not have the bravery inside to move out of something if it wasn't right it's a good answer what are you most
excited for holding myself accountable to attaining the dreams that I want the most which is a happy existence not a happy life like existing in each moment like this this is awesome this is right this is just so wonderful and it's such an honor and I listen to people I don't just hear you and I don't want to miss a moment so today is as good as tomorrow will be and it's what I put into it hmm and nothing just comes to you you set things in motion we've got to we've got to make things
happen and we've got a we do cultivate can like the connection and the I guess action for things to happen otherwise it doesn't happen we can we just sit on our hands and wait for something that never ends up coming I want a wall of my life to show all the countries I've been in to see to show all the people I've made connection with and I don't just mean that in like I would know someone's name I know their story I've interacted with them more than once they have memories and moments in my life
I've put myself in situations that's pushing myself to the limits because that's what we're born to do we're like human ninjas human ninjas yeah good do you think everyone has the capacity to be human ninja absolutely like I'm you know you could use the word warrior but I'm not interested in a fight I want to have the flexibility of mind and spirit to like dance across rooftops and bound from tree to tree and not be around even though I'm present like I can withdraw and then I can come back and you'll know that I'm here
if I want you to know you know to allow other people to have their own moments and for when important tasks are asked of me I can perform them with efficiency and just move on don't like miss so it's very orderly dot the I's across the T's tick the boxes and do it well and efficiently yeah that's you go to it is I'm like do it once and do it properly yeah because then you can leave you have flexibility well I guess that opens up your bandwidth to not have to deal with all the shit
around the edges lack of a better term sometimes I wonder about you know how you can can either bait pay a bill on time or you can let it go to your second reminder you can let it go to your third reminder and why you're doing that to yourself yeah it's a really it's a really cool example because it's only harming you yeah yeah may as well just pay it move on pay it yeah cuz it we've got finance amount of space in our in our noggins and that build that you're on your third reminder
on it's sitting up there taking up space right yeah and you're right and it's about is that a lack of respect to yourself or is that what is that I'm not sure because I think it's not gonna the bills not going away no it's nothing's gonna change just you still at some point going to have to pay it so maybe it's just it's probably I'm sure there's some evolutionary reason for us to not pull the trigger on a lot of things well if you need to money that big any bucks or something oh I yeah
true I want to buy a new bottle of tuna you might want to buy a new bottle of gin but I sort of equate that to if you need to have a healthier body why are you waiting because the price is just getting higher yeah 100% and well any chat any change that we want to make the longer you wait the harder it gets and it's expensive yeah so that's why I come back to do it once do it properly and the things that I can control that are within my power I I do so
how do you discern between what you can control he can't if I've decided on something I just set it into motion the outcome is what I can't control hmm but the pursuit and the organization and the forethought pre-planning that goes into it the efficiency and how far I've mind mapped it so have I checked all my resources am I approaching it with the correct intention and then can I put it in to motion and then can I let it go and I don't really mind what the outcome is it would be brilliant if you got
what you wanted but you just never know yeah that that's how I that's how I measure that yeah I like that a lot I wrote a weekly email and today's was on if you focus on the outcome you become overwhelmed if you focus on the process and what will be will be yeah I just love putting myself out there yeah just right out there and oh well like I might fall over and I'm sorry that I sound like I'm three but yeah I I just I'm not sure how the audio sound I'm sure I can
change it so no you sound fine mate so unfortunately I've got a coach I don't like pulling episode short but so we're gonna do part two at some point okay so I'm not gonna ask you all the bunch of little questions I asked you the end of the podcast because this is more of an intermission but what you're making me wait I have one question for you yes if this was the last time you would ever see me what's one piece of tangible advice you could give me back yourself help me improve my life back
myself good I like it and you did ask me if a soundtrack was playing yeah yeah and I really thought long and hard about that and I would have to say I don't want any of man-made's music oh I just want nature it's a good answer so if birds called me in yeah that that's that's the soundtrack I want I like it on that note we'll see you in a couple weeks for the podcast sweet thank you you
