The Virtus Performance Podcast

Special · Team Christmas Special

25 December 2022 · 1:23:50

Lachie, Tyler, Mitch, and Jazz recap what's been an incredible 2022!

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All right you beautiful people, here we are back for another annual Christmas podcast. It's been a little while since we've done it. I hope we find you safe and well on Christmas Eve. It hasn't been a little while since we've done it because it's take five. Yeah, no, it's true. No one else knows that, man. Don't tell them. Be a professional, all right? Grow up. Show us your feet. Thoughts? Thoughts on these if you're watching on the YouTube? That's Quentin Tarantino-esque, that. You all right, Chas? No. Don't like feet? No, that's the fifth time he showed me his foot.

So Tyler, what are you proud of? Your feet? My black and manky foot. Oh, please stop showing us. All right, if you're not Spotify, you've done well. Get on the tube. So plan for the next 45 minutes or so is we're going to have a little bit of reflection, look back at the last 12 months, talk about what we're proud of, what's gone well, all that kind of stuff. And we're going to look forward to the next 12 months, what will be in 2023, like that. Yeah. Bit of rhyme? Yeah? Continue. And yeah, we'll just talk about it.

We'll probably go off track, but that's okay. Hopefully we can keep you somewhat sane as we lose our sanity as you guys head to Christmas. Yeah, ironic. On that note, before you go. All I want for Christmas is... Yeah, go on. No, too late. No, talk us through it. At least go back in your music for your question. All right, that'll do. That's enough Mariah. But question for you all, first time I've asked her tonight, Mariah or Buble? Don't say it. The best one yet, which we'll talk about in a sec, has already been filmed the other week.

Myself and Mark off a wine cast. If you haven't listened, tune in. The self phrase coming from you. Pour yourself a glass, tune in and get a bit of hospitality and wine history from myself and Mark, mostly from myself. You heard about holocausts and things last time I heard. That's not funny. That's, excuse me? Yeah, a little bit of black humor in that one. The death of six million people. It's not funny, Mitchell. You seem to have found it funny in one cast. Tune in. All right, so first question for you all. Actually, no, you haven't answered the first question.

Little bit of the bubbly. Michael Buble. Mariah. Oh, Jaz is here. Hey, Jaz. I'm probably... Yeah, I'm Mariah. Actually, yeah. I like that song. Definitely Mariah. It's a track. If you hear it three or four times a year, you're sweet. You're winning. So first question for you all. Bit of a reflection of the year. I want a couple of words, two or three words that summarize your last 12 months. You asked me this an hour ago and I said, "I'll think about it," and I actually haven't thought about it, but... Shocking. Yeah. We'll go challenging, broke...

Are you trying to get a BTV ticket? I've been paying you. We won't talk about that. Challenging and broke. We need to have a look at your bank account, because I'm fucking paying you, all right? It's more what I'm doing with the money. Oh, that's exactly it. Nice to have choices. Yeah. Jaz? Jaz, you're up. It's probably good to have you too. Thanks. This is prepping you out for season four, me and co-host. Yes, good. I haven't agreed to that yet. No, you have. No, I haven't. It's part of your... Education. Player development, shall I say.

I'm a happy man when Jaz solo hosts a podcast. Baby steps. We'll get there. Character building. Yeah, I know. Hectic. You've got a year. Yeah. Fun year. Come on. Give us another one. Another one? I only had to give one word. No, it's two or three? You did say two or three. Mm. Come on, Jeez. It's not a thing, Tyler. Don't say it. Not on a live podcast. It's not live. Can we cut it out? No, let's just take five of them. Hectic. Sleep deprived, but fun. Good. Love that. Sleep deprived is two words. Shut up, Tyler.

You asked for two to three. A bit of Mitch and Jazza. A little bit fancy going on here. It's nice to pass the baton alone. Tyler made me wait 40 minutes at the Christmas party and then said it wasn't his fault. He made all of us wait. It was definitely his fault. I'm going to let the people at home play along here and guess why. They only have five seconds to guess and it's going to be pretty straightforward. Calories. Yes. The man was eating. Man's going to eat. We're waiting to get wine and don't. So, a couple of weeks ago, we had a glorious Christmas party.

Would highly recommend. Last week. I can't remember. This comes out at the end of the week. We caught up here. We thought it will be here at 12 because we've got to be at Montelto at one, right? Tyler told us that. Tyler told us that. At 12, what? 30? 45. 45. He goes, we ready to go? Takes 15 minutes to get to Red Hill. It does not take 15 minutes to get to Montelto. So we got there late. Jazza got to know the vines and the beautiful car park at Montelto. But we had a wonderful evening.

To be fair, I didn't know she was just standing there in the car park like a Gronk waiting for us. We had been in the venue and. Did you take a what? Hamilton's drink. What did you call me? We've been running for five and a half minutes. If you're sitting around the table listening to this and every time Tyler goes full Hamilton, you're allowed to have a drink. Have a drink. And I'll have one with you. Mitchell, a couple of words. Oh, out of chaos. Out of chaos? Yeah. Semi-organised out of chaos. It's four words. You want to elaborate a little bit?

How much do you want me to elaborate? A little bit. Oh man, it's just out and stopped. I went from 90 hour weeks into life. Yeah. Yeah. Life things. Life things. And here we are on the back end of life things. Good riddance. Hence, not that it matters because it's take five, so technically I was on time, but I play golf today. So I was looking after the mental health. How'd you go? Actually quite pretty good. Morning sir. Ah, St. Henry's. Oh yeah, nice. Do you like wags, not that you like wags any more? I love wags.

I'm not a beautiful man. Trade off. Always. We don't have a script by the way. Obviously not. I knew I was going to ask this question, I hadn't thought of an answer. Reactive. That's probably mine for the first, well, the last couple of years I've been building on it. But yeah, first time in my life I've had to be reactive, looking after the girls and keeping them alive and trying to help keep KP sane, even though she does most of the keeping sane. Heavy lifting. Of our family, most of the heavy lifting, almost all of it.

Sleep deprived due to that, but also just wonderful. Just lots of moments, lots of special moments, winning flags and watching the girls grow up. Did you win a flag? Yeah. First I've heard of it. That's alright, I'll talk to you about it. I'll bring my medals in one day, I'll give a couple to each of the girls. Yeah, it's been pretty wonderful to see you guys and Lucy and Billy and KP and our Virtus family grow and develop and do good things. It's been brilliant. Yeah, what are you proud of, Jazz, over the last 12 months?

Once you get through placement and work, probably roughly like 80 hour weeks of no sleep and being able to continue on, probably the biggest thing. And to get through the podcast. And to get through a podcast, this is now my second one. Yeah. Very good. What are you guys proud of, Jazz? She's actually learning to dance. I'm so proud of her, she got me good the other day and I didn't expect it. I can't remember what it was, but it was exceptional. But the scary thing was, and you two won't fully understand this, but you've met the man enough to half understand this.

She replied like Ben Frith with a white, and it horrifies me. Horrifies me. I can't remember what it was. I've been spending too much time with her. It was about the Mexican. Oh yeah, true. We made cardio, we made Tyler do some cardio. Went for a walk. He said something to me once and it will stick with me forever. We just mentioned that someone didn't do something because their grandparent had died. And he just said, "The world doesn't stop spinning because you've been dying." And it was tongue in cheek, he was joking, but it fucking hit me hard.

We were walking back from Zambruro's lunch meeting, lucky bad because he wasn't here. We got there and Tyler seemed to not want to carry the heavy bag, too much loosening apparently. So Jazz carried it. Didn't want to burn any excess cow. So I was like, "Oh, what's in the bag? Why do you want to carry it?" Jazz goes, "Mexican." And I just lost it because I just didn't expect it, and it was just split second. Still don't quite get it. So that's why I'm proud of it. It's because you're not funny. There it is. She's on.

Bubs. Bubs. What are you talking about? What are you talking about? What are you talking about, Jazz? Yeah, just leaning into the whole community here because I guess she's been in a similar position to myself where she's moved to this new community where, other than Mitch, did you know anyone in this community before you started here? Nope. There you go. And seeing the challenges I faced when you step into a new place and new people in your ... Mitch is telling me to speed it up. No. What? I'm trying to get hot chip in the air.

I thought you were telling me to wrap it up. Oh, man. I'm not waffling on that much, am I? Mitch is wafting the sweet, sweet smell of our new sponsored fresh air. I don't know if there is such a thing as smell cast or something, but fuck, it smells like feed in here. It does smell. It does. It absolutely does. I went down to the beach. My feet are clean. There is way too many toes out for my liking. Anyway. Before I was really interrupted. 30 toes. Watching her take on the same challenges that I did when I first moved here and thrive and grow in this community.

I've seen community a fair bit. That's good. Move on. I already did mine. What are you proud of, Jazz? I did that. Ah. I thought I was listening. Everyone loves you. No, I'm not. Just cross the board. People love Jazz. More Jazz. They want more Jazz. Just to juggle. Juggle what you've juggled. It's phenomenal. You sure you can spare some calories? Cheat me. Oh, man. I need more calories. I quit my masters, which tells you all you need to say about the resilience and the capacity to just keep on going. Bravo. Thanks, guys. I look forward to you getting it done and seeing you a little bit more.

I know. Yes. It's going to be the best. Can't wait. Tyler, what are you proud of? A bit of self-reflection. Yes. This is my first. I did move here in 2021, but this is my first proper crack at it. It's 2021. We just got shafted by lockdown, so I didn't really get a chance to get out and about and say things. So probably, yeah, it was my first year being in a new footy club, too, in Redhill. True. The Hillman. Get around him. Jack Keillor and helped out with their conditioning programming and warm up and general S&C.

No flags? No flags, though. 2023, though. We're looking good. So, yeah, just being in a completely new environment where the boys, they're young and they've already got their friendships. They've grown up and played in flags together and grown up together and they've got their bonds and their little inside stories and jokes and to have to go into a brand new environment like that, it's pretty intimidating. So to get through that and to build connections and connections here at Virtus, too, it's been good to sort of step into a new environment and I feel like, yeah, starting to feel like home.

What would you tell Tyler from 18 months ago? Don't spend your money? Yeah, maybe that. Nah, nah. Don't regret a single thing. Don't buy any crypto. Yep. Literally. Phenomenal answer. It's a cop-out to go with what you just said. Let's finish your show. Nah, I agree. Yeah, but what would you tell Tyler from 18 months ago? Just from a, like, new life, new area, new footy club, new community, new job. It'll get better. It'll get easier. Did you have moments where you're like, "What the fuck have I done?" No, not really, because in the back of my head I knew it would get easier and better, but I'll just give myself a reassuring, "It'll get better."

Yeah. Mitchell? Proud of Tyler? Deciding what he wants to do on half. Actually having some sort of direction. You're saying I had no direction when I started? Yeah, absolutely. It's not a bad thing. You just didn't know what you wanted to do. Now you've found your little niche in partnerships and probably not what you thought you would find yourself in. Nah, nah, no, no. Status boy. Yeah. Thank you. Jazz, proud of him? Proud of the A's. Put your feet away, Tyler. Proud of the puppy dogs. That's someone's second dream. That's your second country. Are you okay?

No. Not you. I know you're semi-okay, but what is wrong with you? My goal for the next half an hour is to get her to lose it. Oh, it's just not hard. It's after six. I know. That's what I said. Your dedication to your training at the moment seemed pretty consistent, and I know we give you shit for your calories and everything, but you are very diligent, which takes a lot, so. You see, I'm not restricted with my calories. I just need to eat lots of them. Yeah, I know, but still. Still a rent that you could be paying on a piece of money.

Yeah, a lot of money on groceries. Yeah, I was going to say the same thing. Pump me up. Just practice what you preach. You are someone that is starting to see yourself as the leader that you are, which is lovely, and I think you'll get ahead of yourself. But I think that growth over the next six, 12 months is going to be huge, just you being able to talk to and lead our members from a place of experience. That doesn't come free, and Mitch has gone through it over the last couple of years. Jazz is going through it, and will continue to go through it over the next few years.

It's the capacity to have life, what's the word I'm looking for? Help me. Time in. Time in. Time in. Time in. Time in. Yeah, there's another word. It's a good word. This is what I've realized over the last 12 months is that I can't function with no sleep. My brain doesn't work. I can't think of words anymore, but that's okay. But yeah, you've done good. Cheers. And taking on a big chunk of business that I had been taking on, real happy about it. So good from you, and doing it better maybe next year. Next year. What's the question?

What are you most proud of? What are you most proud of? I need to know which part we're going. Surviving, not thriving, but also not sacrificing. I didn't have to give up much, or I chose not to give up much, even though I was doing a lot. Bit of an emotional rollercoaster. Yeah, not even that. Even just like time in. Scribe your friends for anyone watching. Nah, I just showed my head. Never seen it. Heart-breaking. Show 'em my age? Scrubs? Nah. Sorry. Jesus. Yeah, you're old. If I'm older, you're old. It's glad old. We're 20 years older.

We used to give you shit for being the fucking 12 year old. Yeah, but this place ages you. It does. You're the old one now, Jesus. I am. Even though he's a year younger than me. I feel way older. I'm a year younger, but I'm four years younger. That's fair. Yeah, keep going. But no, that's it though, like, even though this year obviously was somewhat organised chaos, I didn't really give up much in the way of what the things that I still like to do. I still did the thing, I still went and socialised with my mates, still went out here and there, still played golf, still trained, obviously got back to running, all that stuff.

Even though it was chaos, I made it work, which is kind of what I do. Attaboy. Avi? Yep. Why? Go on. Fill us in. Detail. I want to cry. To the point where we always lost the plot, we were at Saints, but you still managed to get through the next season. The next day. As in just cooked at the end of the day? Yeah, just absolutely. Most of the time, Jas, I'd have a hoodie over there and just absolutely being a pest. I've seen some of those videos. Yeah, but you were in the worst, probably

from less sleep, more hours on top of what I was doing, and then you're still managing to get through 12 hour, 14 hour days the next day. So good on you. Yeah, sidebar for a moment before you end. We do not promote lack of sleep. There's been some extenuating circumstances in our lives over the last 12 months, and we know as purveyors of good habits that we need to look after ourselves over the next 12 months. So team resource. Team resource. Team, what's the news? Team resolution. Sorry, I'm struggling. Team resolution. We're going to get more sleep.

It's going to be glorious. Great. Sounds good. I've got a child anywhere from four and a half to seven a month. That's terrifying. That has always been my normal though. I'm like six to seven. Yeah, and I feel better. You'll know. That's probably a good segue into what I'm proud of, just the sheer volume of work you get done for yourself and for Burtis and for all your other little side things you've got going on, and despite the lack of sleep and all the other, the house stuff and the emotional stuff going on, you just

get shit done and keep a really cool head, and I couldn't fathom myself keeping a cool head under all those circumstances, and even in the gym, if there were 20 people that have just rocked up and you've got two on boards that are booked in at the same time and five people that are doing their first session, which is just bananas to me, you just keep a cool head and just get it done, and so that's what I'm most proud of. Life's never as stressful as it needs to be. No, it's a choice. Life's never as stressful as it needs to be.

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Life's never as stressful as it needs to be. Life's never as stressful as it needs to be. It's hard to think of a, like, big highlight, and I don't mean this in a grim, sad way, at all, but for me there probably wasn't many, and that's not because I had a shit and sad year, but it was just a very, eh, year. Not a lot of big rises, big falls, just goodness. Yeah, just probably a stage below goodness, not badness, but, apart from me, two of my closest mates, like, moved away over to the UK,

so, and, you know, for the past five years, like, they're the people I probably spent the most time with out of anyone on earth, and even, like, in lockdown 2021 when I was, I'd moved here, like, every weekend I'd just be over in Geelong, like, seeing them, so that forced me to step into, you know, new life here and actually get to know people and get uncomfortable, and, yeah, so that was good growth there, and, like, I've still got a lot of really, really close, you know, my best friends here still, but, you know, with footy as well, I was forced to just step into life here rather than avoid it by going over to Geelong every weekend.

What was the hardest part of each of your years? It can be a chapter or it can be a moment. Footy footy club? I think mine was pretty obvious. You're with someone for nine years and then you're not. Big life change, yeah. Yeah. Not that, I don't mean this to sound hostile, but, like, not a lot changed in, like, from a life point of view as well, like, yeah, we've been together for nine years. It's probably one of the reasons why. Yeah, 100%, and, like, we're both just on different life paths, like, which, so it

hasn't been a bad thing necessarily, but when you have been with the same person for nine years and then you're not, there's some parts you go, yep, didn't realise that was going to happen. So, obviously that, but, I mean, for the rest of it, I'm very similar to that. Like, there was no massive piece, no, apart from that, no huge drops or troughs, like, you know. No flags. Yeah. Don't miss that part of it, so that's okay. You coming back next year? No. Twos are looking a little thin. No, they're not. They never look thin. Get a call every, yeah, it's the one thing Chris Hutchins and his coach are not going to get a call.

Yeah, it's true. I'm off the hook. I'll give Stags his number. Jazz? What was the question again? Hardest part? Um, adjusting to being out of home and having to manage expenses. It's a new world. It's a whole new world. Everything is so expensive. Seven years and I still haven't wrapped my head around it. Have you met Darla? I'll give you three books that will change your life. Actually, I'm going to give you one book that's going to change your life. What is it for people that are listening and might be going through the same struggles? Is it Psychology of Money?

I think it's called. I actually can't remember what it's called. Psychology of Money is, yeah, phenomenal, but also profit first. Even though it's a business base book, it will change the way you look at your income and expenses and yeah, I don't want to, and there's, there's every man and his dogs got financial advice, but as someone that was in a very similar position to you, just automatic transfers just change your life. Weekly automatic transfers and you just need to make sure there's money, there's money in there. So you would change, change your behaviour based on knowing that, you know, X is coming out tomorrow to go into a savings or to go into a.

Yeah, I've been meaning to say that for a while. Don't know how to do it. Pretty sure I told you that like six months ago. Maybe. I need to do it too. I don't know how to do it. Can we, can we. Which bank are you on? I swear you can't do it on CommBank. ANZ. I'm on CommBank. I'm on ANZ. Teach me. It's easy. So next week on finance, but genuinely you just go, all right, you got 100% of your income and I, and I know you're like, that's fluctuate a little bit, but you go on lower end because then the rest is bonus.

100% of your income, you go 20% goes here, 30% goes here, 15% goes here, 8% goes here, whatever, whatever it is. You lost him at 10%. Jamie Smith told me this too. Same shit. I'll sit down with you and we'll figure it out in two hours and then it's just a set and forget. I go, where the fuck's all our money and I go, oh sweet, I've already paid all my taxes. So you don't have to worry about finding it. It's just you don't, maybe don't have as much to spend. But I like fun. What did I say before about having anything you want, not everything you want?

That'd be 2023 learning. You just got to choose, mate. You don't want to be running out of money in Britain. Probably. Um, everyone answer that question. Yeah. Yes. What's a block? I know we're getting on here, but what's a, what's a current block that you have that you'd like to overcome leading into 2023 and onwards. What's a barrier that exists in your world now? If my potential is at a hundred percent, I've been like cruising it like 50 and 60, not cruising is the wrong word. I've been bumping along at 50 and 60 for the last 12 months.

What is a follow up to that? What are the actions you need to take? Because it's one thing to have a barrier. Adopt to have my kids, I don't know. Um, Oh, there's probably the, and this, this goes for like anyone that, that, um, stretches himself in any area of life, whether it be with kids or with work or with sport or whatever, you get to the end of the day and all of the things are done and you, you know, finish cleaning or whatever. And KP is going to yell at me that cause I don't, I don't clean straight away.

Um, I was like, Oh, this is good, Mitch is sitting next to Jazz. Oh, I'm okay. I can be behaved. Water in my mouth. Don't make me laugh. Um, and you get to the end of the day and you go, Jasmine, you get to the end of the day and you go, all right, it's nine o'clock. I'm going to, I'm going to steal back all of the freedom that I didn't have for the last 12 hours. And you're like overcompensate and put it between nine and 11 or nine and 12. He's not up. Sorry. And you burn the candle, you burn the candle at both ends and then have to get up early and it's just repeats.

And I think the thing that's almost hardest with parenting or working a job or like working a big job or anything like that is that it's constantly taking a little bit off you every day or every week. And what you need to do is start finding ways to give it back. So if you, it's been your golf for you, it's, you know, having excess calories every day and going, do I have maple syrup or do I have a glass of milk when I get home? What do I do? Too much carbs. It's a good problem to have.

It's a very good problem to have. So, in answer to your question, I'm not 100% sure, like this is, and things are going great, but this is probably the most lost, for lack of a better term than I've been in my life for a long time. For years, the goal was to build Virtus and for the first couple of years of having the girls, the goal was just keep them happy and moving forward and things like that. Whereas now, Virtus is going well. The girls are somewhat self-sustainable. Now it's kind of like, and in a

lot of those times I spend a lot of time reading and writing, so I probably haven't had a lot of self-reflection time this year, relatively speaking. So yeah, figuring out what I need is probably my main crux for the next three to six months and obviously making sure that Virtus and the girls get what they need as well because the easy answer is just going, "Oh, I need to sleep more or I need to eat better or whatever, but I need a system and a framework in place to allow me to do that consistently on game."

I mean, I'm probably not allowed to say money again, am I? No, absolutely not. Yeah, that was going to be the copyright answer, but I knew it was going to be thrown to the curb, so I've been- It was vetoed, so to speak, Danny. I've come armed with another answer and that is just to get over some self-limiting beliefs so I can continue to grow this business and the wing of it that I own and then grow my own business and online coaching wing and to generate some more income. So it's all linked. I guess get over some self-limiting beliefs so that I can generate more income.

So there you go. I've tied money into the answer. Is he talking about veganism? Veganism. Not talking about veganism. Don't get us out of there. The self-limiting beliefs is a really important one because I think that you've got to find ways to shine the mirror back on yourself, to look at your life and to reflect and go, "All right, what's working? What's not? Where do I need to change?" And we've all got them. I'm sorry. Keep telling it. I'm just an idiot. Please explain. He's playing being a child. Keep going. Sorry. You can watch him get back in a minute.

He's being a child. I wasn't watching him being a child. He's being a child. He's back in the video. He's being a child. What time are we at? And he keeps doing this shitty little smirk because he can't laugh. You okay? That. I'm good. I can't remember what I was saying. Jazz? Sorry if you're listening on Spotify. Again, we had a tangent. What's the question? Barrier and how you... Yeah, what's a block and what's your plan for overcoming it? I think with the volume of work that I do as well as like uni at the

moment and just having the ability to juggle that and then still have time to do like my social netball, my training and things for myself and having to find a way to juggle it between. It's not going to get less what I'm doing, but I just have to find a way to fit that time in and be better planned, which is getting better. What are you going to actually do though? Scheduling the time and work around it. Good. Sorry. You were talking about self-limiting beliefs before us being idiots. Yes, you were. Then locked. I started going on a Segway.

Sorry. I was stirring up jazz. On another Segway, back to self. I think what I was saying was along the lines of like all barriers to growth and development are self-made and even though technically then a lot of them aren't, there's no utility in kind of going, "I'm not growing because of X, Y, Z," that are outside of your control. If you go, and this is maybe just a mindset that has helped me in the past and I think can help anyone if they truly buy into it. If you look at the reasons why your

life isn't the way you want it to be and it might be around money, it might be around health and wellbeing, it might be around relationships or it might be around career and you say, "How is this my fault? How have I been wrong about this?" Build systems and processes and it might be asking yourself questions, it might be journaling, it might be talking to a friend, it might be reading books that are going to help you expand that understanding. That allows you to then break through those beliefs to then create beliefs that will help you thrive and help you grow and help you develop in ways that wouldn't have happened if you didn't challenge yourself.

We can all sit in any environment with people we know and love and go, "Here are the three reasons why you're not doing the things you want to do." You can say they work too much or you can say they spend too much time watching TV or they spend too much time on their phone or whatever, but until you do that to yourself and do it consistently and realize that what they do is outside of your control, that is the thing that will allow you to step forward and allow you to grow and allow you to overcome whatever it is that you've been doing or whatever it is that's been stopping you from doing the things you want to do.

I think when you realize that, there's a whole heap of power comes from that because you're in charge. Ultimately, I look at anything but the girls for one. If KP and I are there, it's kind of you both kind of think that doing something is the other person's responsibility, whereas when you're the only one, you go, "Oh, will you just do it because it's your responsibility?" I think that no one is going to take responsibility over your life other than you, so if you want to grow and you want to develop in the way that we all do, it's on you and you're in charge and you get the opportunity to do that.

That's what I was going to say. Good stuff. Any more for anymore? Final thoughts? I'm fighting. I don't think so. You're late. I was trying to think of Barry, but I don't think I really have one. My name's Mitch. I think I'm over him. To be honest. You've overcome some barriers this year, so good for me. I don't think I have any. Just do what I want, within reason. Don't go out, you know. Doing nothing crazy, I think. Good. What's Christmas look like for all you? Just with the fam, friends for dinner. I'm super excited for Christmas this year, just seeing the girls' faces when they see a Santa or press the button on the Grinch or whatever.

Did you guys get to the point where you were 13 or 14 and you're like, "It kind of doesn't really feel like Christmas anymore," or you get to an age where it doesn't feel like Christmas like it did when you were a kid? I kind of feel like I'm going to get to see and feel that through the girls' eyes again. My Christmas will just be people watching. My two daughters. Yours? Get pissed on Christmas Eve with Hamilton. Christmas Eve. Go out in Hamilton. Catch out with all your school chums and mates from back home. School chums.

Be really good. Are you going to steer there? No. Just walk. You don't steer anywhere in Hamilton. You can walk comfortably anywhere under 30 minutes. And then, yeah, Christmas Day with the family, nice lunch, pig out, and then might sneak over to our mates at nighttime. Jasmine? Going home. All six of us and then three dogs have lunch at home and not do too much else. Perfect. Take me home. Well, you're not wrong about country, by the way. I'm telling you, it never puts you in a bad mood. I agree. Normally, it gets to a point at Saints where I start singing in jazz and that's when it really goes downhill.

Oh, it's like when I arrive. Start singing country music. It's five o'clock. I do. I'm okay with it. Country music is worth it. We did our family Christmas on Saturday, so the extended family gone. Most of my family don't live near-ish. A lot of my cousins live in Canberra away, Phillip Island way, and then some live out past the city. Done the big family one, so Christmas day looks like mom and dad's house for lunch. I think some of my extended family are coming to that as well and then normally mom's best friend comes over

and her kids, who I went to school with, and then normally a bunch of my best mates come around for dinner and eat our leftovers. Sounds wonderful. Boxing day, basketball, and cricket. Yeah, good. Yeah. Very good. One last thing, and this is like a one-liner, the best piece of advice you've either given or been given this year that kind of over something that kind of sums up the year. Can you repeat that again? Best piece of advice you've given or been given this year that kind of sums up the last 12 months? I say this all the time and I know I'm going to get the look of it, because I'm a doer.

I like to plan and process, but I also just like to do it. I don't think about it, I just do. So, unofficial rule 13 here at Verbs, we're not here to fuck spiders. Doing is better than thinking, in some cases, but yeah, that's a big one. Yeah, good. Because that's something that I, even though it does seem funny, that's how I live. Stop thinking about it, just go do it. Even as simple as getting back with some text messages or an email, don't let it sit there. Just get it done. Two-minute rule is a good one.

If it takes less than two minutes, just fucking do it straight. Do it right then and there. But yeah, we're not here to fuck spiders. Mitch Merch is coming soon. Do you have a name? No. Run with Mitch Merch. Yeah, that's what I said. I hate it though. PCR. I was going to use my Instagram handle, but what's PCR. I don't know, you just stumped me a little bit. Fuck, I don't know, Jazz, go first, let me think. Another one for me is, you're allowed to have bad days. The world is so built now to be perfect.

Just how it's built and we love our little dopamine hits, but even saying this to some of my clients, "Oh, I'm feeling a bit shit, I haven't been around," I was like, "You're allowed to do that." It's not a bad thing. It's welcome being human. You have your own emotions. Yeah, you got to give yourself what you need. I think if you feel 60% one day and you rock up and give 60%, then that's 100% of what you're capable of for the day, great. And you don't have to be up every day because it's human, you're not.

Yeah, that's a big offer. Okay, something's come to me and this is a bit of a left of field. Like health one, my coach, Alex Sandalis, Mitch's drum roll and allow yourself to unwind with a TV show before bed. It's going to sound stupid to a lot of people that do that anyway, like 99% of people, but my bedtime routine, I don't know when I implemented this, it was say February prior, was real anal and strict and Instagrammy, like you got to switch off electronics three hours before you go to bed, read a book, do some meditation and yeah, no blue light.

And I struggled so hard with my sleep and what Alex said to me, he's like, "Doesn't sound like you're switching off. You're switching on." I'm like, "Whoa." I want anyone else to play along. Episode 23. 23? Yeah. Yeah, you spoke about that. Oh good, he listened. So yeah, now I still wear my blue light blockers and turn off the phone, but I just sit back and watch a couple of dumb TV shows and then you're melting. Puts his little romantic red light on. Yeah, the red light. Takes his beat reel for the day. It's not really real when you take it when you get into bed.

Unfortunately, I'm not going to go into detail there. He's been found out. He's been found out. He's been found out. I mean, yeah, a hundred percent. I switch off better when I have my phone. I might watch 10 minutes of a TV show just to help me just like, "Ah." And then podcasts. You haven't seen his beat reels? No, I don't. It's a low upper abbey peck. It's not. It's a bit hate gone. I'm here for it. It's delicious. Mine, because we do need rapids. Yeah, we do. Mine, because we do need rapids. Mine, because we do need rapids.

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Do that. Keep you in. Finish this off, Jazz, before I play some country Christmas carols. Mine would be, it's okay to prioritize things for yourself and get them in as well. And finish it there. Selfishness is not a dirty word. Have a wonderful Christmas, be amazing, keep looking after yourselves, looking forward to a glorious 2023 at 1/2 Torquaterra Sand fucking everywhere else. So here's a bit of Brett Aldridge, actually 12. I'll watch it later, I'll watch it, I'll watch it later. It's the most wonderful time of the year. With the kids jingle belling and everyone telling you be of good cheer.

It's the most wonderful time of the year.

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